Podcasts · Health & Fitness
Pillow Talks
262 episodes · 20 with AI analysis
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
AI Intelligence · across all analyzed episodes
People · top 8
Companies · top 20
Topics · top 10
Responsive vs. spontaneous sexual desire×3Erectile dysfunction (ED) and medication disclosure in relationshipsPremature ejaculation (PE) and anxiety management techniquesDelayed ejaculation and realistic expectations for intercourse durationCommunication strategies for discussing sexual performance issues with partnersPsychological vs. medical causes of sexual dysfunctionVulnerability and intimacy in long-term relationshipsReframing spontaneity in sex and relationship planningMasturbation techniques for training ejaculation controlTestosterone levels and hormonal health screening
Analyzed Episodes
May 21, 2026
E261: ED, PE & Everything In Between: Your Performance Problems Solved (Part 2)
Erectile dysfunction (ED) and medication disclosure in relationshipsPremature ejaculation (PE) and anxiety management techniquesDelayed ejaculation and realistic expectations for intercourse duration
View AnalysisMay 7, 2026
E259: Sex and Intimacy After Kids: What Actually Works (From Parents Who've Figured It Out)
Scheduled sex and intentional intimacy planning for busy parentsNon-sexual touch and physical affection maintenanceMental load distribution and household equity
View AnalysisMay 14, 2026
E260: How To Orgasm Like A Man: Breaking The Blocks That Keep Women Stuck
Female orgasm blockages and psychological barriersBody image anxiety during sexual activityCommunication and feedback in intimate relationships
View AnalysisDec 11, 2025
E238: Ask a Sex Therapist: Cycle Libido, Rough Sex & How to Sync Up Your O’s
Female orgasm development and learning with partnersMenstrual cycle and libido correlation across follicular, ovulatory, and luteal phasesSexual initiation dynamics and rejection handling in relationships
View AnalysisDec 18, 2025
E239: Breaking Down A Real-Life Text Fight (pt. 3)
Text-based conflict resolution and communication patternsSexual desire mismatch and libido differences in relationshipsForeplay, arousal, and physical intimacy initiation
View AnalysisApr 30, 2026
E258: Weed, Alcohol, and Sex: What's Actually Happening to Your Body and Desire
Alcohol and sexual performance (erectile dysfunction, delayed orgasm, reduced sensation)Cannabis and sexual sensation (heightened touch, altered time perception, paranoia effects)Consent and intoxication in long-term relationships
View AnalysisDec 23, 2025
E240: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex
Body image and sexual desireGender differences in body consciousnessPostpartum body image and intimacy
View AnalysisJan 1, 2026
E241: Sex Fails: Car Hookups, Clap Lights, and Cowgirl Concussions
Sex education and relationship communicationNormalizing sexual mishaps and embarrassmentIntimacy product design and functionality
View AnalysisJan 8, 2026
E242: Penis Performance Problems: What’s Really Going On (And What To Do About It)
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) causes and managementPremature Ejaculation (PE) and orgasm controlDelayed Orgasm and difficulty reaching climax
View AnalysisJan 15, 2026
E243: Your Biggest Marriage Regrets (And How To Prevent Them)
Sexual incompatibility and communicationBoundary setting with in-laws and extended familyLoss of individual identity in relationships
View AnalysisJan 22, 2026
E244: How To Schedule Sex (our hot take)
Scheduling sex and intentional intimacy planningResponsive vs. spontaneous sexual desireAnticipation and dopamine in sexual satisfaction
View AnalysisJan 29, 2026
E245: What It’s Really Like to Start TRT: Xander’s Testosterone Journey
Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT) - forms and delivery methodsFunctional Medicine - root cause approach to health optimizationHormone Testing and Blood Work Protocols
View AnalysisMar 5, 2026
E250: What Do Men Really Think About…? Part 4 (Heated Rivalry, mental load + areolas)
Mental load in relationships and household labor equityGender socialization and its impact on sexuality and intimacyFemale breadwinner dynamics and male identity
View AnalysisApr 23, 2026
E257: Am I The Asshole? Oversharing, Snoring, and Body Shaming
Relationship boundaries and oversharing with friends/familySexual communication and initiation in long-term relationshipsApartment living and noise complaints during intimate moments
View AnalysisMar 12, 2026
E251: What’s Your Desire Type? Our NEW Framework for Understanding What You and Your Partner Really Want
Spontaneous vs. responsive desire modelsBrain-first vs. body-first desire activationEmotional-connection-first vs. physical-connection-first intimacy preferences
View AnalysisMar 19, 2026
E252: Don’t Give Your Kids “The Talk” (do this instead)
Age-appropriate sex education frameworksParental communication strategies for sensitive topicsBreaking generational shame cycles in families
View AnalysisMar 26, 2026
E253: Ask A Sex Therapist: dry spells, sex pillows, and morning sex
Body image and confidence in intimate settingsResponsive vs. spontaneous sexual desireManaging mismatched sexual preferences in relationships
View AnalysisApr 9, 2026
E255: The Sexiest Thing You're Not Doing in Bed…Mutual Masturbation
Mutual masturbation techniques and initiation strategiesOvercoming shame and embarrassment around masturbationFemale sexual pleasure and masturbation techniques
View AnalysisApr 16, 2026
E256: Doggy Style: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Maximum Pleasure
Doggy Style Positioning and LogisticsFemale Orgasm and Clitoral StimulationSex Position Variations and Modifications
View AnalysisApr 2, 2026
E254: Couples Coaching: Why Resentment Is Killing Your Sex Life
Resentment in long-term relationshipsFemale orgasm difficulty and techniquesResponsive vs. spontaneous sexual desire
View Analysis